Here’s an eye opening self empowerment exercise to help you take a quick inventory of your values, priorities and goals. It’s a great little ‘check up’ to see where your priorities are taking you, and if they are helping you travel in the direction of your dreams.
“When you realise that every action you take
is based on your own priorities,
you realise the vast power that is in your own hands.”
YOU are the WIND
Just work through the 6 Steps below. As you’ll see at the end of the exercise, you can go back to number 3 and work through this exercise in any area of your life.
1. What are 10 of the top values you have been honouring in your life? Your highest values are primary qualities that you most want to have in your life. You base your decisions on these, and they determine your behaviours, how you relate to others, and the actions you take. Identifying these will help you to appreciate your existing self empowerment… it’s you who gets to decide what values you want to live by.
There are hundreds of possible values, from achievement to zeal, and every letter in between. List 10 that speak loudly to you.
2. Prioritize the 10 highest values you have identified, with #1 being the most important to you.
3. Now take a little inventory of where your life is at in this moment regarding ‘a close personal relationship with a significant other’. Examples of taking a brief stock in this category might be:
- I’m in a long term loving relationship and am very happy;
- I’m in a long term relationship and not very happy;
- I’m single and want a happy relationship;
- I’m single and very happily so
4. Then browse over your list of 10 top values and see if you can identify which of your chosen values might be contributing to your ‘present personal relationship status’.
5. Next, state what your optimum ‘personal relationship status’ goal would be in a perfect world.
6. Now, think about how your values might re-organize or change if you want to give relationship priorities greater weight. Would doing so be helpful to achieve your highest vision of a personal relationship in your life? In consideration of this, you might also like to review some literature on what is important in the type of relationship you envision. ex. Love as a Way of Life by Gary Chapman
- Income and financial
- Physical and health
- Mind and learning
- Social community
- Spiritual experience
When you do these exercises, you’ll be following the threads that show you the reasons as to why your life looks as it does. You can be thrilled to see these connections, and to know they are in your power to change!
“I’ve gone through life believing in the strength and competence of others; never in my own. Now, dazzled, I discover that my capacities are real.
It’s like finding a fortune in the lining of an old coat.”